Day: May 16, 2020

Marriage to an immigrant brings with it the blending of two or more different cultures and backgrounds. But it also brings with it prejudice and suspicion. Here’s what to avoid saying to someone who is about to marry an immigrant as they meet them in person or through онлайн запознанства

What to Avoid Saying to Someone Who is About to Marry an Immigrant: Are You Sure He/ She Really Cares More About You Than Getting a Green Card?

Unless you want to lose a friendship, it is worth your while to avoid saying this. It is very demeaning for anyone to hear that their fiancé(e) does not care for them and only wants to marry them so that they can stay in America legally. Think about what you are saying before you say a word. This statement indirectly suggests that the immigrant is a possible illegal immigrant, while in all likelihood they are perfectly law-abiding and simply wish to marry their fiancé(e) just like any other couple.

What to Avoid Saying to someone who is About to Marry an Immigrant: What Will Your Parents Say?

This statement implies that the parents of the American citizen will disapprove of the marriage. Why should they? Unless they have an obvious dislike of foreigners, there should be no reason to worry. Even the most xenophobic of parents can change and accept their foreign-born son or daughter-in-law into the family. But it is not right to point out that there could be a problem. The chances are, all will go well.

What to Avoid Saying to Someone Who is About to Marry an Immigrant: Rather You Than Me!

This can be taken in a number of ways. Some well-meaning people really mean that they would not want to have to deal with the bureaucracy of immigration and making sure that they have followed through with all the legal channels so that they can marry their foreign-born fiancé(e) and start their new life together. But it can also be taken as an insult and can easily offend the person with whom you are conversing with. If jokes and light banter are not your forte, it is best to just keep quiet on the matter or else, just offer your sincere congratulations to the happy couple on their impending wedding.

When you hear that a friend is about to marry an immigrant, do not jump to conclusions and assume that the immigrant does not have good intentions. Granted, there are plenty of illegal immigrants who exploit American citizens so they can enter and stay in the country legally, but it would be unfair to lump all immigrants into this category.

With the beginning of spring, the urge to clean out our spaces grows until even the most undomesticated amongst us find themselves emptying out closets and dusting light fixtures. The tradition of spring cleaning came from the time in our human history when candles and gas lights were used to light homes. During the winter, a coat of soot settles on most everything inside the home and once the weather becomes tolerable enough, windows are opened and everything washed down or taken outside to be shaken down and aired out.

Even after a recent remodel, I find myself this spring wanting to wash my fresh walls. I recently painted most of my first floor a very light, almost ethereal ice blue with the slightest hint of green. It’s a beautiful color, restful, serene, but really, really not good in house constantly overrun by children under the age of eight. Within a week of living with my freshly painted walls, the smudges began to appear. Tiny fingerprints, some with chocolate, a scuff mark from my husband’s briefcase hitting the wall. I had gone with the slightly matte finish, recommended if you’re painting old walls with visible flaws, and the marks started to drive me crazy. Even my white trim painted in a gloss finish weren’t spared. Taking a wet rag cleaned up some of the dirt but the scuff marks remained. From laundry to painting on the walls, the person will be performed through домоуправител for the person. A comparison can be done in the services offered through different house managers companies. The charges should be under the budget of the person.

Luckily I stumbled upon the All Purpose Eraser by Homelife at my local grocery store. Mr. Clean makes a similar one called The Magic Eraser. I took one home and followed the directions, basically, dampen with water and rub scuffed wall. I couldn’t believe my eyes. The sponge lifted the scuff off with out leaving any marks or lint, like my rag did. I tried it on crayon and magnetic paint that I accidentally swiped my maple cabinets with, and it took it right off. I also used it on the brown marks left by my club chairs bumping into the wall. There are some very deep scuff marks that it won’t take completely off, but I could see it was because the drywall has been gouged out a bit and I’ll probably have to touch up with paint, but at least I don’t have to completely wash my walls in the traditional spring cleaning fashion.

Two of the Homelife pads went for under $2.00. A package of four for Mr. Clean goes for about $6.99 at staples.com. Probably my only complaint is that unlike regular sponges, the erasers don’t last forever. They almost seem to disintegrate after some really heavy using. Don’t pay any attention to e-mail claims that they’re toxic. They are not made with formaldehyde and are not and have never been in any recall. Check out snopes.com if you want to check it out.

If your house is spotless and you can’t go to bed if there’s a dirty dish in the kitchen, this is not for you. The rest of us need to find ways to keep housework from overwhelming us or just getting left undone.

Do Your Housecleaning in Stages

Think about it and make a plan to break housecleaning down into units you can handle easily. Try cleaning one room a day. Not that you have to do one every day, but consider how many rooms you have and schedule accordingly. The job won’t seem so overwhelming if you do a little every day, or every other day.

Another approach is to do one cleaning process a day. Do a “put-away” blitz through the whole house and put everything away one day. Dust everywhere the next day. Vacuum all carpets and/or sweep all floors the next. Do the bathrooms and kitchen. Mop all linoleum or tile floors. Just remember to work from the top down…dirt falls. The secrets of housekeeping will be available with домоуправител под наем софия. Proper information can be gathered from online sites to hiring of the professional manager. The work will be different and unique from ordinary housekeeping person through the experts.

This method works with larger periodic cleaning chores like windows or decorating for Christmas.

A note on the put-away blitz: As you take things from one room to another, gather up things in that room that go to another, in a round robin style. Make it a challenge to avoid leaving a room empty handed.

Distribute extra cleaning equipment and supplies

Keep a broom and dust pan in a distant bathroom or closet for non-carpeted areas. Stock each bathroom as well as the kitchen with appropriate cleaning products, paper towels and/or sponges.

Reduce Dish-washing

Empty the dishwasher soon after use so you can store dirty dishes in it instead of having to leave them on the counter.

When you finish a snack or drink, deal with the dishes and silverware right then. Many will do with just a rinse under hot tap water. Keep a sponge laced with dish washing detergent on the sink to give a swipe as needed. Anything greasy, pop it directly into the dishwasher, (See why you don’t want to leave the clean dishes in there?) unless there’s food stuck to it. Put it in the sink and fill with hot water – dishwasher later. Hot water is your best friend when it comes to reducing dish washing!

This may distress your mother, but consider refrigerating a serving size leftover in the dish you will eat it out of instead of a proper storage container. One less item to wash. Explore your collection of plastic containers for lids that fit your bowls and cups. (The lids from oatmeal cartons fit my soup mugs.)

Organize clothing storage

When spring weather has finally turned really truly permanently warm, move all your winter clothes to the far end of the closet. Pack all gloves/scarves/hats away. Put sweaters and heavy sweat suits behind the shorts and tank tops. When it turns cold in the fall, reverse the process. If this sounds like a big job, move a few things each time you get dressed.

Tame the Laundry

If you have room, set up two tall bins for dirty laundry. Drop whites and light colors in one and darks in the other. Keep a zippered mesh lingerie bag in the whites bin for bras and nylons. Prevents the bra hooks from snagging sweaters and makes it easy to keep all the bras and nylons out of the dryer. They last longer being hung up to dry.

Do one load of laundry at a time, say one each evening.

To make that load easier to handle, spread a shirt on the floor and pile the rest of the laundry on it. Pick it up by the sleeves and the corners of the tails – instant bag!

Collect empty hangers from the closets and take with you to the laundry.

Fold and sort everything as you pull it out of the dryer rather than piling it up to do later – fewer wrinkles, easier to put away, and one less handling. Put everything that gets hung up on hangers right out of the dryer, even those items that need ironing. They will need less, if any, when they’re hung up fresh out of the dryer.

And Five Ounces of Prevention

Put an aluminum foil cookie sheet under your pets’ food and water dishes to catch what they scatter.

Keep a little laundry basket in the kitchen for cloth napkins, kitchen towels and potholders.

If you don’t wear shoes in the house, keep a pair of slip-ons by the back door so you can go outside without having to go find shoes.

Save the plastic bags that produce comes in. Put garbage in one, squeeze out excess air, tie it shut and put in the trash. No more messy stinky trash.

Store the loose parts and accessories to a small kitchen appliance or gadget in a plastic container – from a margarine tub to a plastic shoe box. The thing is supposed to be a labor-saving device, so make it easy to use.