‘Good’ People Should Be Very Afraid Of God.

Romans chapter 3 states that there is not a single person on the earth or that has ever been on the earth (besides Christ) that is good. None. Not even one. But I think that many of us take this to mean that everyone is as bad as they could be. And that simply is not true. We see people do good things all of the time—we see a lot of non-Christian people do good things all the time. Multitudes of which orchestrate and participate in charities, overseas work, caring for the sick and orphans, feeding the hungry, providing shelter for the homeless, and the list goes on and on. But the question is, do the good deeds make them good people?

 

The Bible is so controversial because it claims that a generous and selfless person who lives their life putting others before themselves and doing good things can actually be horrifically and condemn-ably evil. Doesn’t sound quite right does it? It didn’t sound quite right to the Pharisees when it was coming out of Jesus’ mouth either. Moses, the Prophets and the Son of God all witness to the same truth—someone can spend their whole life being ‘good’ in the eyes of other men: doing charity work, emptying out their bank accounts for the poor, fostering orphans in their homes, cultivating good morals in their kids, going to church, teaching Sunday School, reading the Bible—but if God is not their ultimate motivation in doing these things and the primary object of their love, they are evil.

A person is defined as good or evil not based on their relation to others, but on their relation to God. Good relation with God produces good relation with others, not the other way around. Truly being “good” doesn’t come about by doing good deeds–because the good deeds of a faithless person come from the depths of a dead, sin stained heart that has no intent of glorifying God. Truly being good, or righteous, only comes through faith in Christ and trusting in His goodness. If you believe you are good based on anything else besides the fact that Jesus has absorbed your evilness on the Cross and given His goodness to you, you should be very afraid of God. Afraid, because you are making Him out to be a liar as you reject the righteousness by faith that He says you need while you attempt to establish your own. In doing so, you pridefully set yourself up against the Creator of all things.

I fear for professing Christians in America, specifically for those living in the Bible-Belt. I fear that just as the religious community did in Jesus’ day, we are substituting good deeds (a righteousness based on works) for a relationship with God through Jesus (a righteousness through faith). I fear that we have cloaked The Way that Jesus and His apostles spoke about with a man-centered religious system that strives to meet the physical and emotional needs of people while neglecting their spiritual need of reconciliation to God. We emphasize “doing good” while minimizing what it means to be a Christian. Many from the pulpit assure people, “If you say you’re a Christian and believe it, you’re a Christian!”  But that’s not biblical. Yes, we are saved by faith in Christ alone….. but it seems many don’t understand what an explosive and transformative device faith in Christ is. It changes everything about a person. Faith isn’t a proclamation with the mouth, it is an attachment of the heart to Jesus Christ which results in a proclamation with the mouth. Verbal proclamation means nothing without a heart attachment to Christ.

 This people honors me with their lips, but their heart is far from me”- Matthew 15:8.

Someone knows that they are a Christian not merely because they think they believe, but because they see that their life is wrapped up in a process of becoming more like Jesus Christ. Not just more like a “good person”—not just more like a “caring person”—not just more like a “generous person”. Sure, all of these things are Christ-like characteristics, but Christ’s most defining characteristic was His love for God the Father and desire to be obedient to His Father’s will. Are our good deeds motivated by a love for God and desire to be obedient to His will? Or are our good deeds motivated by our own self-interest and self-righteousness?

I don’t want to see ‘good’ people mimic the things Jesus did while lacking a relationship with Him. Jesus said Himself that multitudes will be in shock on the day they stand before Him and hear Him say, “I never knew you.” (Matthew 7:23). Please examine your heart and motives (as I am also doing today) and ask the Lord to show you now if He really knows you. If you find that your “Christian life” has been a life of fraudulence and deception—full of activities and good deeds, but empty of God—rejoice that the Holy Spirit has shown you this now, and repent and turn to Christ for the forgiveness of your sins and for an eternal reconciliation to a good and faithful Creator.

The people will declare, “The LORD is the source of all my righteousness and strength.”- Isaiah 45:24

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47 thoughts on “‘Good’ People Should Be Very Afraid Of God.

  1. I hope everyone who reads this gets it ! These thoughts have been running through my mind lately. …..I am glad you wrote this. We all need to wake up and get real with God! We all need to honor the sacrafice Jesus Christ made for us as our Saviour by giving him the glory and not by taking pride in how good we are!

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  2. The Emerging Church members are predominantly preaching horizontalism, i.e. “orchestrate and participate in charities, overseas work, caring for the sick and orphans, feeding the hungry, providing shelter for the homeless, and the list goes on and on.” They are precisely treading the way that you have stipulated above, Matt. We should firstly seek Christ and follow Him. As a result of being grateful for being saved we should serve the Lord and do all those good deeds. Surely not in order to be seen by the Lord and therefore be saved.

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  3. Matt,

    Doing Acts of Mercy is evil? Huh? I don’t think I understanding this post correctly. How exactly is doing “good deeds” aka charity and mercy wrong? Does not our Christian faith require this of us…to help those in need?

    Is it better for the Christian to be self-centered, lazy, mean slob? Never lifting a finger for anyone but ourselves and maybe our families?

    “When the Son of man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, then he will sit on his glorious throne. Before him will be gathered all the nations, and he will separate them one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats, and he will place the sheep at his right hand, but the goats at the left. Then the King will say to those at his right hand, `Come, O blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world; for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, `Lord, when did we see thee hungry and feed thee, or thirsty and give thee drink? And when did we see thee a stranger and welcome thee, or naked and clothe thee? And the King will answer them, `Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brethren, you did it to me.’ for I was hungry and you gave me no food, I was thirsty and you gave me no drink, I was a stranger and you did not welcome me, naked and you did not clothe me, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.’ Then they also will answer, `Lord, when did we see thee hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not minister to thee?’ Then he will answer them, `Truly, I say to you, as you did it not to one of the least of these, you did it not to me.’ And they will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.” And when did we see thee sick or in prison and visit thee?’ Then he will say to those at his left hand, `Depart from me, you cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels.

     

    The Gospel according to Blessed Saint Matthew 25: 31-46 
    How can this be?

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    • Re-read the blog. You’re not understanding what I’m saying. I am saying that “good works” that do not proceed from a heart of faith are filthy rags before God. You can do all the good that you want, but it means nothing if your heart isn’t changed.

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    • Hi Matt,

      ya I think I did misunderstand the post when I first read it. But how do we know what goes on in each Christian’s heart? We might perceive some Chriatians as being inadequate or not the real thing…but what about us? Sure some Christians leave me scratching my head such as the ones who support abortion, euthanasia, same-sex “marriage”.

      What about us? What about me?

      My faith journey is a personal is a ongoing conversion of repentance and sacramental grace. All that Jesus does for us and our salvation is mercy. His sacrifice on the Cross, made present in an unbloody way at every Mass, has the power not only to cleanse us of sin but to raise us up to share in God’s own divine life. (See 2 Peter 1:4.) To receive this wondrous mercy, we simply need to repent of our sins and believe in Jesus…

      “Faith without good works is dead”…if Martin Luther could hear you now he would beating you over the head with a hammer…

      Okay thanks Matt

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      • Davide,
        I don’t think that’s what Matt says though. We are still call to do good deeds, we are still to call to love one another and be patient to one another. Helping the poor and the widow.. But, our motives should be clear, it is not for our own pride and self righteousness but it’s for God’s glory and His glory alone. The way we show our conduct in our society should be a reflection of how the Holy Spirit work in us. If we are truly repent of our sin and put our trust in Jesus, we need to bear much fruit.
        Matt here is saying, that we can not call our self “good” just because we’re doing good deeds. (Not one is good, not one is righteous– Romans 3). Churches (the invisible one), are called to preach the gospel. Yes we are called to do good works, but without preaching the truth about repentance and the saving faith that come from Christ, all of those good deeds are nothing but a filthy rags. So many churches nowadays are so focus on doing social works, and involved in worldly matter, but they ignored to teach the one thing that really matter, THE WORD.. And I think that’s what Matt is trying to say here, many claimed to be a believers, but all they have is the false assurance that they are saved .. and that’s scary

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    • @Davide
      It’s peculiar,Davide, how you seek clarity and guidance on Gospel matters from a heretic protestant like Matt when you simultaneoulsy proclaim that the Triune Creator of the Cosmos’ Wisdom is embodied in the infallible person of the Pope whom you proclaim to hold the seat of TRUE Christianity.

      And while we’re at it, the same peculiarity can be noted in your fixation with homosexuality and its related issues…how you pursue following blogs of homosexuals or struggling homosexuals (such as Matt’s); people with whom you say you have no part with and have no hidden proclivities in such behaviour yet you are an eager participant in following our struggles.

      Me thinks you do not know your own person my friend.

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      • Mike

        As far as Matthew being a “heretic”…no Protestant today can be charged with formal heresy therefore Matt is not a heretic.

        Regarding the Pope being infallible I am pretty certain you have no clue what that even means…if you would like me to educate you on this come to my blog and you can enroll in class….

        While back when I asked you to stop obsessing about me that did not me continue thinking intensly about me…

        You remind me of a teenage girl..who always wants drama and to have attention drawn to herself…Mike on good days you are the furthest thing from my mind…on bad days I want to throw you in traffic but I’ll probably just kill myself saving you…

        LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!

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    • @Vony, ya I get what Matt was saying. At first I had misunderstood him. Got a question for you what is a invisible Church? And who are its members? Invisible Christians? Anyways thanks

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    • Davide, typically people interpret Matt 25:31-46 in exactly the way you just did, however, there is a deeper spiritual meaning.:

      “For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat,
      I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink,
      I was a stranger and you invited me in,,
      I needed clothes and you clothed me,
      I was sick and you looked after me,
      I was in prison and you came to visit me.’
      Matthew 25:35,36

      When I used to read this passage from Matthew I often thought of the Salvation Army and their good works or the many missions to Third World countries we see advertised on television. I always felt guilty because, as a single mom for many years, I never had the extra money to give monthly contributions to missions. I never helped out at a soup kitchens. I thought that doing my part was giving a dollar to a street person. One time I went so far as to buy supper for a man who was begging for change.

      But now when I read the verses Matthew 25:35, 36 it is magnified and I see a deeper meaning in it. I see a spiritual meaning.

      …….for my spirit was hungry and you gave me a Bible to read, my spirit was thirsty and you prayed with me, for I did not know God and you witnessed to me, I gave up my life for Jesus and you gave me another life, I sinned and you did not condemn me, I was a part of this world and you did not give up on me…….

      It is not food for the body Jesus is concerned about it is food for our souls.

      “ Then Jesus said to his disciples:

      “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life,
      what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear.
      Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes.”
      Luke 12:27,28

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  4. Still not getting what I’m saying, Greg. Faith without works is dead…. but works without faith is useless. There must be both. Genuine Faith in Christ and good works that proceed from that faith.

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    • @Matt
      My father once told me, “Be wary of the man that states that he is a ‘good person’ for a truly good person, by virtue of the fact that he is genuinly good, is INCAPABLE of arriving at the conclusion that he is ‘good’ since his mind does NOT think in terms of himself as being good or bad but rather his thoughts are always inclined toward the needs of his fellow man.” I have never forgotten this advice from my father.
      For example, when I surf dating sites, I automatically delete so-called ‘potential matches’ that begin their profile with, “I am a good person”:..Red flag!!!

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  5. “You can do all the good that you want, but it means nothing if your heart isn’t changed.”

    Is there a person alive who does everything out of 100% sincerity and for whom there is no self-interest or conflict? I doubt it.

    There is an element of dishonesty in everyone: the person we portray ourselves to be is not reflective of our actual instincts. This can be said of everyone, I think.

    There are people who seek to do good for no other reason than that they believe it’s the right thing to do. There are other people who refrain from doing bad things merely because they want to avoid getting caught. Most of us are a mixture of both.

    You seem to wish to sort people into one camp or the other … in reality, it’s a graduated scale.

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  6. What you are saying Matt is quite right but I think it is hard for us sometimes to wrap our heads around the idea that doing good can be “bad”. God wants us to be in a relationship with him, to be his sons and daughters, not just to be “do-gooders”. It is to set right what happened in the Garden of Eden when the trust relationship between God and men was broken. In Ephesians 2:8-9 it states “For it is by grace you have been saved through faith –and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God –not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared for us in advance to do.” The trouble is, many people (I was one of them) get it backward and put the good works before the “in Christ Jesus” part. In his profound book, “The Prodigal God”, Timothy Keller deals with this topic in depth as he expounds on the parable of the Prodigal Son. He states, “You can avoid Jesus as Savior by keeping all the moral laws. If you do that, then you have’rights.’ God owes you answered prayers, and a good life, and a ticket to heaven when you die. You don’t need a Savior who pardons you by free grace, you are your own Savior.” The parable of the Prodigal Son was addressed to the Pharisees, the “good people” who Jesus knew were deceived into thinking that their goodness would earn them God’s favor. Jesus is making the exact same point that you are making in your post, Matt. He is warning them of the deceptiveness of doing good. Keller goes on to say, “That’s why elder -brother lostness is so dangerous. Elder brothers don’t go to God and beg for healing from their condition. They see nothing wrong with their condition, and that can be fatal. If you know you are sick you may go to a doctor; if you don’t know you are sick you won’t –you’ll just die.”

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  7. Seems to me that all Matt is saying is that “good works” (feeding the hungry, helping the poor, defending the defenseless, etc.) done in our own strength and self-righteousness are not evil – hungry people are still fed, etc. But no one is saved from judgment by good works and works can never make us righteous in the sight of a holy, perfect and sinless God. “No one can please God in the flesh” (that is, before salvation)

    What the book of James in the Bible is saying is that while faith alone (never works) saves, faith that saves is never alone, it naturally produces good works that in salvation are pleasing to God as a living tree naturally produces fruit. Jesus said “I am the vine, you are the branches. … If you abide (have your life) in Me, you will bear much fruit…. Without Me you can do nothing. (good)” Obviously good works produced by salvation are important to Jesus. A tree that produces no fruit is unhealthy and likely will ultimately die. He said that branches that did not bear fruit would be gathered up and burned, a metaphor for judgment. Remember that Jesus, finding no fruit on the fig tree (even though it was not the season for figs), cursed it. By sundown the apostles marveled that the tree had withered. Israel was largely apostate again by that time (and rejected Jesus as their Messiah) and in that bore no fruit. The cursed fig tree was a living picture of the judgment and destruction that was to come upon Israel a mere 38 years or so later, when Rome besieged and destroyed Jerusalem and Herod’s Temple.

    So, get saved by Jesus, and then continue to do good works! :)

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  8. what about the poor Christians who cannot give money and do not have time to do these good works? Will they be less important in the Kingdom of God?

    When Jesus talks of bearing fruit do you really think he means giving money to the poor? Or do you think he means growing in love, patience, kindness, peace, joy?

    Don’t you know that this earth will pass away and no one will even remember having an empty belly or being homeless, a thousand years from now.

    What we will remember is our walk with Jesus. When Jesus says I don’t know you. Ask yourself why doesn’t he know me? Didn’t he see all the great things I did? He must know I am good because I give and give and give. It proves I am ok, it proves I am fruitful. Don’t you see how it always comes back to the works of the flesh.

    In the end Jesus will say he doesn’t know you because you never spent time getting to know him. You did your own thing. You were a good person, had a successsful life, had fun times but you are a stranger to Jesus. God is not going to let a stranger into his house.

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    • Moxie writes: “In the end Jesus will say he doesn’t know you because you never spent time getting to know him.”

      What does that even mean? He’s not visible to us. He doesn’t respond audibly. The words attributed to Him in Scripture are so few in number that they could fit on a napkin.

      We can only imagine things about Him. That’s what we do, and that’s why there are a million versions of Jesus, each one merely reflecting the hopes and values of the person involved.

      We can only try our best to figure out what it means to love ourselves and others … let the chips fall where they may in the end. No one’s given the answers.

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      • Hey James much of what you wrote is very true and makes perfect sense. It’s hard to explain how faith works. ….. It’s kind of like being Helen Keller in a spiritual sense ….. She wrote about her knowlegde of something outside of herself ….a world she could not see or hear……She was able to touch things to prove a world exsisted around her…… So for me it is faith which came first…….the knowing without proof…. the knowing in the heart……and then there are the tangible things which reveal the intangible God, such as answered prayer and reading the Bible, these acts of faith help us touch God’s world and know him.

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      • Careful, James. The New Testament (and the OT and the Gospels) has exponentially better evidence for its text being that of the Apostles who walked daily with Jesus for 3 years than do any of the ancient Greek writers, or even Shakespeare, for being accurately transmitted to the present day. There are over 25,000 extant copies and fragments of the books of the Bible, and even if they were all destroyed, virtually the entire Bible could be reconstructed from the quotes alone in the sermons of the church fathers from the first 4 centuries or so after Jesus. We can be confident that the things Jesus is recorded as saying in the Gospels are His words accurately remembered, written and passed down to us. We don’t have to imagine anything about Jesus. He did not intend to leave knowing Him to the imagination, having taken on human flesh and spoken directly after appearing (as “the Angel of the Lord”) to several people in the Old Testament.

        The words attributed to Him in Scripture are so few in number that they could fit on a napkin.

        Only if you follow the methods of the Jesus Seminar, whose erudite members mad that determination by putting different colored marbles into a pot. Yeah, I’ll believe them over the Apostles, who all but John and Judas died for insisting that what Jesus said was true and that He was and is the LORD God. Suuure.

        I pray Jesus makes Himself unavoidably real to your heart, as He has to those of us He snatched away from destroying ourselves in having our own way and trying our best to figure it out.

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    • Moxie,

      With all due respect I think its made perfectly clear in my above quote from Matthew 25: 31-46, Our Blessed Savior was speaking of mercy as it relates to the physical, to bodily needs. This passage is direct reference to Corporal Acts of Mercy and there are seven (7) of them.

      1. To feed the hungry
      2. To give drink to the thirsty
      3. Clothe the naked
      4. Shelter the homeless
      5. To visit those inprisioned 
      6. To visit the sick
      7. To bury the dead 

      This was a divine Commandment by Christ in the most strident terms failure to comply is the supreme penalty of eternal damnation. 

      Thank you 

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      • You must be religiously educated because I have never heard of the Coropal Acts of Mecry, I’m not trying to be sarcastic, I really haven’t …..I was speaking from the heart…. basing my reflections on spiritual meanings so evident in much of Jesus’s teachings…… Many times his parables
        had a double meaning…

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    • Well, Moxie, you must be talking to a different Jesus than the one who saved me when I wasn’t interested in being saved, who has graced me and moved me to know Him through the Scripture, prayer, meditating on the Word and fellowship with other believers and in worship. But you know better about me, who you have never met, and declare that Jesus will say He doesn’t know me because I “never” spent time getting to know Him and did my own thing, being a good person (though I know I am not good, being confronted with the evil desires of my old heart daily even as Jesus gives me grace to overcome them), having a successful life (ha!, you REALLY don’t know me!). Hope that warms your heart.

      I agree with you that bearing fruit means growing in love, patience, kindness, peace, joy, etc, that is, daily being molded in the image of Christ. A kind word or deed, especially with no expectation of “repayment”, is just as much a “good work” as dumping piles of money on worthy and needed help, if not more so. Remember Jesus praised the poor widow’s placing her two mites (worth less than a penny) into the Temple treasury because she gave all she had, while the rich gave a proportionally insignificant amount. God’s economy is obviously different than ours. The parable of the talents makes it clear that God only expects us to do good works proportionate to the resources He sends to us, be they great or small.

      I wonder if you know the Scripture as well as you imply, and the basis for judgment, having written this:

      Don’t you know that this earth will pass away and no one will even remember having an empty belly or being homeless, a thousand years from now.

      Jesus thought it pretty important whether we did what we could, great or small, to help the hungry, the homeless and the prisoner. He made it clear in Matthew 25, following the parable of the talents, BTW, since you know the Scripture so well. You still might want to refresh your memory and look it up.

      Moxie, I know that I will be undeservedly forever in the presence of Jesus who I have come to love, worship, adore, praise, honor and glorify, only and ever because He shed His sinless blood for me on the cross and graced me to claim His salvation for me who is ever in need of Him. I pray you have the same assurance, and that we will know each other forever in heaven!

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    • @Davide I figured you were Catholic, it’s something about that intellectual wit and unreserved loathing… btw (figured out how to use my real name on display aka Moxie ;p)

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  9. Milton, I was simply suggesting that the only way to “know Jesus” is through Scripture. While He may speak to His believers about the meaning of Scripture or even about what to do with specific instances in our own lives, we may easily confuse His voice with our own (or something worse). How else do you explain the many divergent opinions of “true Christians” in America regarding both moral and theological doctrines? No one can claim infallibility. We can either rely on our own ideas or punt and rely on the ideas of others “more knowledgeable” than ourselves.

    That’s the best we’ve got.

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    • I actually agree with much of your comment here. It is all too easy for us to confuse His voice with our own. The only real safeguard against that, which we must apply our whole lives in this world, is to continue to know Scripture better and better, with the help of teachers who have studied it in the original Greek, Hebrew and Aramaic and know the cultures in which it was written, reading the broad consensus over 2000+ years of its essential teachings, and with the revelation of the Holy Spirit who inspired men to write its ~66 books.

      You and I have simply made different choices for whom to rely on for ideas. Until not too many years ago I made your choice. I built quite a little hell of a life for myself thereby. Jesus has been at work since then making me a very different person with a much better life here and now, and later, a wonderful and eternal life with Him and all those redeemed by His blood. I pray that Jesus will lead you to that life also.

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      • Milton,

        How exactly was your life a hell before knowing Jesus and how did it change afterward? I know that with me, even in the short time I’ve been walking with the Lord, I’m slowly developing an attitude change towards life, people and all its problems. Beforehand I had a HORRIBLE fear of being rejected and abandoned by those around me. I couldn’t trust anyone. When I actually did experience rejection by some family members /friends I became even more distrustful of others. Even my (ex)boyfriend whom I adored I just couldn’t trust completely. I thought that if other people could decide they didn’t want me anymore then he could too. As a result I got so desperate to keep him with me that I ended up emotionally suffocating him. I did other things too that I don’t want to say. Still have my issues with trust/being rejected but the Lord is showing me that He’ll never stop loving me, He’ll never stop wanting me, He’ll never abandon me no matter what. And that I can always trust him completely. It’s the beginning of a long learning process.

        Michael

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  10. Michael, your developing “attitude change” is a strong sign of the new, born-again heart that the Holy Spirit is growing in you, and assurance that you really are saved by Jesus. God bless you, brother!
    Michael, my issues before knowing Jesus were similar to yours, especially fear of rejection and abandonment. They just resulted in different dysfunctions and sins than yours. For me, I had a problem with porn and before that occasional drunken nights and pot use long ago, once blacking out for most of a day. My father was very closed emotionally and we were never close to each other. He developed Alzheimer’s before we had a chance to resolve much of any distance between us. He grew up under quite dysfunctional parents himself, from what my (still living) mother told me years ago. I hated him for years. It was only after Jesus saved me that I could release and forgive my father and ask God to be for me the Father that my earthly father could not be, which He has to the full. My first wife began to reconcile with me when I told her about the porn, which God took from me overnight in His mercy. But her difficult relationship with her own father, I think, and her apparently not knowing Jesus in a saving faith (very liberal Episcopalian) made her unable to believe and trust the work Jesus was doing in my life. She separated from me emotionally and physically under the same roof for the next 12 years until the large inheritance left to her and her two sisters by her father’s passing financed her leaving me without cause 3 years ago and taking our two daughters, then 13 and 18, with her and ultimately ending a difficult 20-year marriage. God unexpectedly brought me together with my now-wife shortly after. I was pretty sure I would be alone the rest of my life, but God had other plans once I left the rest of my life to Him. I couldn’t have dreamed up a more loving, supportive and God-believing wife or a more peaceful and fulfilling marriage. I ask God each day to grace me to be the godly, loving and faithful husband He wants her to have. How wonderful for that to depend on His goodness, grace and mercy instead of my own (non-existent) goodness! No doubt the attackers and accusers will come out of the woodwork from my transparency. No matter, I know the God of second chances and seventy times seven chances, and the blood of His Son shed on the cross is what does and will speak for me.

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    • One thing I am afraid of is being alone the rest of my life, but I’m also afraid of being in an unhappy relationship for years too. I’m always hearing that single people should be patient, that God will provide them with their mate. But how do you really know who the right person is? People always think they found their true love, their soul mate, only to discover down the road they were wrong. It’s confusing to me especially when I know God only allows me to have a relationship with people I’m not attracted to but doesn’t allow me to have one with people who I am. I know I should be focusing my attention on my relationship with Jesus, and I do try do that. But still I think about human relationships, love and all.

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      • It is so hard right now. If I did not break up with my boyfriend we would have been together five years. But I’m alone now. Will I always be alone? I try to be “just friends” with him but it’s too hard. Makes me so sad. I feel like the devil is laughing at me – I have no future. Will never have someone to love and to love me. I try to talk to my Dad but it’s difficult to discuss this with him. Think he blames himself for the way I am and I feel so guilty about that. Need prayers to help me through this.

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      • Michael,

        You’ve found someone you love, yet you are willing to throw him away because a worship of Scripture rather than Jesus? You’ve fallen in the trap of following the words of Paul and ignored the actions of Christ. Try reading this article. I think it will help.

        1. http://www.patheos.com/blogs/frankschaeffer/2012/11/why-evangelical-bible-idolatry-sucks-and-why-i-go-to-a-greek-orthodox-church-even-though-its-a-mess-too/
        “Having elevated the Bible — or at least the nicer bits that they like — to the status of a magic book evangelicals have demoted God. Their “god” is trapped in a book and kept somewhat like a tame rat inside the cage of “biblical inerrancy.”

        1. “Jesus attacked the idea of salvation through correct belief. He attacked the idea that only Jews were “saved.” Jesus said that the Good Samaritan, today’s equivalent of a gay Hindu outsider crashing a Southern Baptist church supper, was the only one in his story doing God’s will thus “saved.” He broke the biblical Sabbath laws. He thumbed his nose at the church of his day and the keepers of the Law. In another instance Jesus said that “The Law says… but rather I say…” and then repudiated the Law in in favor of the woman “taken in sin.” On the cross Jesus said “forgive them,” thus doing away with hell for evildoers”

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      • James, I’m not throwing him away. I really want what is best for him. This isn’t easy at all. The way I feel about him is so much stronger and deeper than how I feel about any other human being. He’s been my best friend since we were 14. But I can’t be a husband to him, can’t be a wife to him. That kind of relationship just isn’t meant for us. And I don’t want to interfere with his relationship with God. I care about his salvation. What else can I do.

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      • So you are saying that you can’t be in a loving same sex relationship and be saved?

        Michael, I’m not trying to give you a hard time. I just want to make sure you are doing some open-minded thinking. Once I stopped buying into the dogma I heard from the pulpit and explored these issues with an open mind, I developed a whole new perspective on life. Please read the article I linked in an earlier post. Evangelicals have it all wrong. Stop focuses on a few verses from Paul….. follow Jesus’ example. What would Jesus do?

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  12. Perhaps a little off topic, but needed to reply to Michael. God bless you for your admirable courage to share your struggle. Be encouraged. As your journey with Jesus continues to progress, you will be astounded by the things you can overcome or endure with His help (keep a journal, if you don’t already). I know you don’t need one more person telling you to be patient, but the “waiting” is always worth it because the growth and/or outcome is always better when left in God’s hands. Your fears and concerns matter to Him and He is faithful – hang in there! And I would suggest you don’t entertain thoughts or ridicule from the enemy – he is defeated anyway.

    It’s very important to stay connected with godly people (or at least one godly person) who can provide you with prayer and support through your struggle. There are others who have spoken out publicly about their journies through similar struggles. If you haven’t already, you might want to try to connect with some of them. Perhaps they would be able to offer you specific encouragement.

    May God bless you, Michael. I will lift you up in prayer today.

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  13. Hey Michael

    I just wanted to let you know that I am praying for you. I sympathize for what you are going through. A breakup after a long time of dating is very hard. I am very sorry that you have had difficulty in talking to your dad about your struggles. I think one the biggest problems you are facing is that you are lacking support from people around you. My advice to you would be to email Matt and to have back and forth conversation with him about your struggles. Accountability can do wonders for people. Do you attend a church and a bible study where you live?

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    • Yes I have a church that I go to and there is a bible study group as well. I’m going to see a family counselor with my Dad and step Mom and hoping that will help with communication issues we have. And anxiety problems I have as well. Thank you for your prayers.

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      • Michael,

        Praying for you tonight. Satan’s subtle lie to us is that we will find life outside of God’s Holiness. His holiness is not repression but freedom from sensuality which strangles our soul. Satan is an angel of light and he will use people even church people to put the focus back on satisfying our flesh versus finding our life in Christ. Dying to ourselves and living for Christ brings life but living for our sensual desires only brings more emptiness and stronger bondage. Remember Peter tried to persuade Jesus not to go to the cross saving himself and so people will try remove the cross of following Christ. What would Jesus do? He died to himself and he said that anyone that followed him must do the same. God loves you greatly and he did not come to condemn you. Remaining in our sin is what condemns us. Look at our world, they are chasing their fantasies and desires believing that they are freeing themselves but it is only leading to bondage and disdain for the light. They will heap abuse on you and mock for following Christ carrying your cross. Read the gospels and see how many times you see this command from Christ. Christ has so much for you in Him. He has great spiritual treasures that give you real satisfaction that the things cannot do. If your concept of God is right and you see Him as the one in control and provider, and beyond that as your loving Father, then you know you have nothing to worry about. Jesus said, “What man is there among you who, when his son asks for a loaf, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, he will not give him a snake, will he? If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give what is good to those who ask Him!” (Matthew 7:9-11). Men will fail you but your hope is in Christ who never fails you. He only wants the best for you even when it seems that the world in your life seems dark at times. Read the gospels and the new testament epistles and find the promises that we have in Christ and you will be transformed into the new creation that you were meant to be as you walked by faith based on Truth not feelings.

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