I was asked by someone at the Christian Post to respond to an essay written by a person who is in the gay lifestyle. I have not attached the person’s entire essay, but I have pulled a few questions/comments from it (which are in italics) and addressed them below.
“I have had it with the ex-gay liars, homophobic “Christians” and the entire negative attitude towards gay people.”
I will not deny the fact that many people have exhibited extreme hateful behavior toward homosexuals in the name of Christ. Unfortunately, these are the people that get most of the media coverage while the loving, yet truthful, Christian approach toward homosexuals often goes unnoticed. The problem is that even the caring approach many Christians, such as myself, take when talking to those in the homosexual lifestyle is often perceived as hateful and intolerant because it does not line up with their beliefs. I am a Christian who struggles with homosexual thoughts, so I of all people understand the internal battle is that is waged within the gay person. The world is telling people to accept their homosexual feelings as a God-given gift, while the Church is telling them that they must repent from homosexuality and turn to Christ for forgiveness and redemption, just like the rest of mankind is called to do.
“Most right wing and conservative people [Christians] can only talk about 3 things and are limited to those three things. Sin, Judgement, and Hell. THEY KNOW NOTHING ELSE!”
As far as Christians only talking about sin, judgement and hell; the addressing of these issues is a prerequisite to understanding why you need Jesus. Often, people are not tyring to condemn a gay person, but rather trying to get them to see that they are already condemned along with the rest of humanity and need to cling to the Cross of Christ. You can’t understand the good news unless you first understand the bad news. The bad news it that every human being is fallen, broken and incapable of earning good standing with God. Our hearts are corrupt, along with our thoughts and our feelings. We see God, the world and yes, even sex, in a perverted way because of our separation from God. The good news is that Jesus came to absorb the condemnation that we deserve in order that we could be reconciled to God through Him and be shaped into the people that God wants us to be.
“If gay isn’t a choice, how can it be a sin?”
This is a very valid question that is often ignored because the average American Christian has not gained a sound biblical understanding of human depravity, and the pulpit is largely to blame for that. We have avoided the truths that hit us hard while joyously proclaiming only the truths that make us feel good about ourselves. If we only understood our inborn nature, we would not need to be constantly immersed in repetitive “feel good” sermons because our joy would be abundantly overflowing because of the realizatioon of the enormity of what Christ has done for such ill-deserving, ungrateful creatures such as ourselves. The truth is that each and every human being is radically depraved, bent toward sin and evil, and destined to hell without the intervention of Jesus Christ. Sin is not just something you do, it’s who you are. Our hearts, thoughts and feelings are all twisted and grotequely corrupted and that brokenness is where things like homosexual desires come from. The Bible is clear that homosexual behavior is sin, along with adultery, fornication, incest and bestiality. A man doesn’t “choose” to have an adulterous thought come into his mind, but is that grounds for him to be justified in acting out on it? By no means! He is called to turn away from that evil desire, just as the person who is attracted to the same sex is called to turn away from that evil desire. All people are called to turn from these evil desires, regardless of what specific one they struggle with.
“It’s amazing to me how conservative they [Bible-believing Christians] are when it comes to their love, but when it comes to hate, they are the most liberal ones out there.”
It’s quite bewildering to me that although the gay community vastly promotes tolerance, they are quite intolerant when it comes to Christian beliefs. When a Christian tells a homosexual that their liftestyle is not right in the eyes of God and they need to turn to Jesus, they are not being hateful. In all actuality, they are being quite loving. If a parent saw their child running around in the street, would they be hateful for snatching them out of the street before they get hit by a car? Of course not. Any good parent, or even stranger walking by, would not allow a child ignorantly putting themselves in danger to remain in that situation. Likewise, the Christian sees the the reality of what blatant rejection of God results in; an eternity in Hell. Therefore they cannot keep silent while watching their friends, family and collegues ignorantly march toward eternal death.
“People who “don’t live the gay lifestyle” are celebrated as heroes in the “Christian” world, yet because I love another human being with everything in my soul and he happens to be of the same gender, I am evil!?”
People who have same sex desires but don’t act out on them, such as myself, are not “heroes” in the Christian world. We are recipients of mind blowing GRACE. We truly understand what it means to deny yourself daily, pick up your cross and follow Jesus Christ; and no matter how hard it may be or how unfair it may feel at times, we know beyond the shadow of a doubt that our suffering is nothing to be compared with the suffering that Jesus Christ unfairly endured. And as I addressed earlier, the human heart is corrupted. Our ideas of “love” can be far from what love really is. The Word of God is clear that sexual relationships between two people of the same gender are “burning passions” or lust, not love.
God’s will is for us all, regardless of sexual preference, to forsake our sin and believe in Jesus…
Not the “Jesus” that condones your sin.
Not the “Jesus” that wants you to have your best life now.
Not the “Jesus” who makes all your earthly dreams come true.
Believe in the real Jesus.
Believe in the true Jesus.
Believe in the Jesus of the Scriptures.